😡 Negative Feelings

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1 | P a g e 😡 Negative Feelings — This is a simple way to show how bad someone feels about another person. ⭐ Give each feeling a score • 0 = None — You don't feel it. • 1 = A little — You feel it sometimes. • 2 = Some — You feel it quite a bit. • 3 = A lot — You feel it often and strongly. • 4 = Super strong — You feel it almost all the time. Feeling Score (0– 4) 😤 Resentment — feeling like someone treated you unfairly ___ 😡 Anger — feeling really mad ___ 😣 Frustration — feeling annoyed or fed up ___ 😒 Jealousy — wishing you had what someone else has ___ 😞 Envy — wanting what another person has ___ 💔 Feeling rejected — feeling hurt because someone didn't want you ___ 😳 Feeling embarrassed — feeling bad or ashamed ___ 😢 Feeling betrayed — feeling hurt because someone let you down ___ 😠 Feeling wronged — feeling that someone did something unfair to you ___ 🤔 Distrust — feeling like you can't trust someone ___ 😈 Hostility — feeling very unfriendly or angry toward someone ___ 😕 Wanting the person to feel bad — wishing something unpleasant would happen to them ___

2 | P a g e 🧮 Your Score Add all the numbers together. Total: ____ / 48 • 🟢 0–20%: Very few negative feelings • 🟢 21–40%: Some negative feelings • 🟢 41–60%: Quite a lot of negative feelings • 🔴 61–80%: Lots of strong negative feelings • 🔴 81–100%: Extremely strong negative feelings Remember: Feeling angry or upset doesn't automatically mean someone wants to hurt another person. Feelings and actions are different things.

3 | P a g e My Feelings and Thoughts About Her Date: ____________ What happened? __________________________ How to score it 0 = Not at all 1 = A little 2 = Some 3 = A lot 4 = Very much 1. What did I think about her? • Did I think I knew what she was thinking? 0 1 2 3 4 • Did I think I knew why she did something? 0 1 2 3 4 • Did I think she was trying to upset me? 0 1 2 3 4 • Did I think she was lying to me? 0 1 2 3 4 • Did I think she was trying to control other people? 0 1 2 3 4 • Did I think she was doing something on purpose to hurt me? 0 1 2 3 4 • Did I think I knew what was best for her? 0 1 2 3 4 My score: ____ / 28 2. Was I being unfair? • Did I only notice the bad things she did? 0 1 2 3 4 • Did I assume the worst about her? 0 1 2 3 4 • Did I treat my guess like it was a fact? 0 1 2 3 4 • Did I ignore things that showed I might be wrong? 0 1 2 3 4 • Did I judge her before knowing all the facts? 0 1 2 3 4 • Did I treat her differently because of what I already thought about her? 0 1 2 3 4 My score: ____ / 24

4 | P a g e 3. What did I expect from her? • Did I expect her to act differently? 0 1 2 3 4 • Did I think she should do what I wanted? 0 1 2 3 4 • Did I think she should listen to me? 0 1 2 3 4 • Did I think she should accept my advice? 0 1 2 3 4 • Did I think she owed me something? 0 1 2 3 4 • Did I think I had to get involved? 0 1 2 3 4 My score: ____ / 24

5 | P a g e 4. Did my thoughts make me more upset? How upset was I before? 0 1 2 3 4 How upset was I after thinking about her actions? 0 1 2 3 4 Did my thoughts make me more upset? • No • A little • Somewhat • A lot • Very much What feeling did I have? • Angry • Sad • Hurt • Jealous • Rejected • Ignored • Disrespected • Worried • Powerless • Other: ____________

6 | P a g e 5. Did my thoughts make me do something? Did my thoughts about her make me want to: • Talk to her • Contact her • Confront her • Argue with her • Get other people involved • Keep checking what she was doing • Do something else: ____________ What did I actually do? 6. What are the facts? What do I KNOW happened? What am I GUESSING happened? What am I FEELING? Could there be another reason she acted that way?

7 | P a g e My final check Did my own thoughts make me more upset? • No • A little • Somewhat • A lot • Very much Did my thoughts affect what I did? • No • Maybe • Yes The biggest thought I had was: “I thought __________________________ because __________________________.” After looking at it again, I think: “I know __________________________, but I was assuming __________________________.”

8 | P a g e SELF-ASSESSMENT — ASSUMPTIONS, BIASES, PREJUDICES & OPINIONS Date: ____________ What happened? __________________________ How to score it 0 = Not at all 1 = A little 2 = Some 3 = A lot 4 = Very much 1. ASSUMPTIONS ABOUT HER • Did I think I knew what she was thinking? 0 1 2 3 4 • Did I think I knew why she did something? 0 1 2 3 4 • Did I think she was doing something on purpose to upset me? 0 1 2 3 4 • Did I think she was lying? 0 1 2 3 4 • Did I think she was trying to control other people? 0 1 2 3 4 • Did I think she was trying to get a reaction from me? 0 1 2 3 4 • Did I think I knew what was best for her? 0 1 2 3 4 • Did I think her actions had a hidden meaning? 0 1 2 3 4 Score: ____ / 32

9 | P a g e 2. PERSONAL BIASES • Did I focus more on the bad things she did? 0 1 2 3 4 • Did I assume the worst about her? 0 1 2 3 4 • Did I treat my guess as if it were a fact? 0 1 2 3 4 • Did I ignore things that might show I was wrong? 0 1 2 3 4 • Did I look for things that proved what I already believed? 0 1 2 3 4 • Did I judge her differently from how I would judge someone else? 0 1 2 3 4 • Did I make the situation seem bigger than it really was? 0 1 2 3 4 • Did I blame her without knowing all the facts? 0 1 2 3 4 Score: ____ / 32 3. PREJUDICES / PRECONCEPTIONS • Did I already have a negative opinion about her? 0 1 2 3 4 • Did I decide what kind of person she was without enough evidence? 0 1 2 3 4 • Did I put a label on her? 0 1 2 3 4 • Did I judge her because of something I had experienced with someone else? 0 1 2 3 4 • Did I treat her differently because of what I already thought about her? 0 1 2 3 4 • Did I think she deserved less trust or respect? 0 1 2 3 4 • Did I think her opinions were less important than mine? 0 1 2 3 4 • Did I judge her instead of looking at what she actually did? 0 1 2 3 4 Score: ____ / 32

10 | P a g e 4. PERSONAL OPINIONS & EXPECTATIONS • Did I expect her to behave differently? 0 1 2 3 4 • Did I think she should behave differently? 0 1 2 3 4 • Did I think she should respond to me in a certain way? 0 1 2 3 4 • Did I think she should listen to me? 0 1 2 3 4 • Did I think she should take my advice? 0 1 2 3 4 • Did I think she should keep talking to me? 0 1 2 3 4 • Did I think I understood her better than other people did? 0 1 2 3 4 • Did I think I had a special role in her life? 0 1 2 3 4 • Did I think she should have made different choices? 0 1 2 3 4 • Did I think I had the right to get involved? 0 1 2 3 4 Score: ____ / 40

11 | P a g e 5. AGGRAVATION TEST Did my thoughts about her make me more upset? How upset was I at first? 0 1 2 3 4 How upset did I become after thinking about it? 0 1 2 3 4 Did my thoughts make my feelings stronger? • No • A little • Somewhat • A lot • Very much What made me more upset? • I felt rejected • I felt ignored • I felt disrespected • I felt left out • I felt jealous • I felt replaced • I felt like I had no control • I felt like I was losing my influence • I thought she was doing it on purpose • I thought she was lying • I thought someone else was influencing her • Other: __________________

12 | P a g e 6. MOTIVATION TEST Did my thoughts about her make me want to do something? • No • Maybe • Yes Did they make me want to: • Talk to her • Contact her • Confront her • Argue with her • Try to change her mind • Get other people involved • Keep checking what she was doing • Do something else: __________________ What did I actually do?

13 | P a g e 7. FACT VS. ASSUMPTION What do I actually KNOW? What am I GUESSING? What am I FEELING? What evidence shows I might be wrong? Could there be another reason she acted this way?

14 | P a g e 8. FINAL ASSESSMENT What affected me the most? • An assumption • A personal bias • A prejudice or preconception • My personal opinion • My expectations • Jealousy • Feeling rejected • Fear • Feeling like I had no control • Something that happened in the past • Other: __________________

15 | P a g e How much did it affect me? 0 1 2 3 4 Did my own thoughts make my feelings worse? • No • A little • Somewhat • A lot • Very much Did my own thoughts affect what I did? • No • Maybe • Yes My biggest thought or assumption was: “I thought __________________________ because __________________________.” After looking at it again, I think: “I know __________________________, but I was assuming __________________________.”

16 | P a g e 📝 MY FEELINGS — WHAT MADE ME FEEL THIS WAY? This is about me, my thoughts, and my feelings about the woman. There are no “right” or “wrong” answers. Be honest. Date: ____________________ What happened? __________________________________________ How much did each thing affect my feelings? 0 = Not at all 1 = A little 2 = Some 3 = A lot 4 = Very strongly What I thought or believed 0 1 2 3 4 I thought she was ignoring me ☐ ☐ ☐ ☐ ☐ I thought she did not like me ☐ ☐ ☐ ☐ ☐ I thought she was choosing someone else ☐ ☐ ☐ ☐ ☐ I thought she was trying to hurt me ☐ ☐ ☐ ☐ ☐ I thought she was being unfair to me ☐ ☐ ☐ ☐ ☐ I thought she was lying to me ☐ ☐ ☐ ☐ ☐ I thought she was talking about me ☐ ☐ ☐ ☐ ☐ I thought other people were turning her against me ☐ ☐ ☐ ☐ ☐ I thought she should have treated me differently ☐ ☐ ☐ ☐ ☐ I thought I knew what she was thinking ☐ ☐ ☐ ☐ ☐ I thought I knew why she did something ☐ ☐ ☐ ☐ ☐ I thought she needed to change ☐ ☐ ☐ ☐ ☐ I thought I knew what was best for her ☐ ☐ ☐ ☐ ☐ I felt jealous ☐ ☐ ☐ ☐ ☐ I felt left out ☐ ☐ ☐ ☐ ☐ I felt replaced ☐ ☐ ☐ ☐ ☐

17 | P a g e What I thought or believed 0 1 2 3 4 I felt disrespected ☐ ☐ ☐ ☐ ☐ I felt I was losing control ☐ ☐ ☐ ☐ ☐ Someone else made me feel worse about it ☐ ☐ ☐ ☐ ☐ Other: __________________ ☐ ☐ ☐ ☐ ☐ 💭 WHAT WAS I THINKING? What did I think she had done? What did I think she meant by it? Do I know this for sure, or am I guessing? ☐ I know for sure ☐ I am partly guessing ☐ I am mostly guessing ☐ I don't know

18 | P a g e❤️ WHAT WAS I FEELING? Circle or tick my feelings: ☐ Angry ☐ Sad ☐ Jealous ☐ Hurt ☐ Worried ☐ Embarrassed ☐ Rejected ☐ Left out ☐ Betrayed ☐ Frustrated ☐ Scared ☐ Confused ☐ Other: __________________ How strong was the feeling? 0 1 2 3 4 🔍 WAS IT HER ACTION — OR MY THOUGHT ABOUT IT? Something she actually did: What I thought it meant: Could there be another explanation?

19 | P a g e 🔥 DID MY THOUGHTS MAKE THE FEELING STRONGER? Before I thought about it: 0 1 2 3 4 After I thought about it: 0 1 2 3 4 Did my thoughts make me feel worse? ☐ No ☐ A little ☐ Somewhat ☐ A lot ☐ Very much 👥 DID SOMEONE ELSE AFFECT MY FEELINGS? ☐ No ☐ Yes — a friend ☐ Yes — someone in the group ☐ Yes — family ☐ Yes — someone else What did they say or do? Did this make my feelings stronger? ☐ No ☐ A little ☐ Some ☐ A lot

20 | P a g e 🚦 WHAT DID I WANT TO DO? After I felt this way, did I want to: ☐ Leave it alone ☐ Talk to someone ☐ Talk to her ☐ Ask questions ☐ Find out more information ☐ Get an explanation ☐ Confront someone ☐ Get back at someone ☐ Make someone change their behaviour ☐ Other: __________________________ What did I actually do?

21 | P a g e ⭐ MY FINAL ANSWER The main reason I felt bad/angry/upset was: The biggest thought that made it worse was: Was this thought based on something I knew or something I assumed? ☐ Something I knew ☐ Something I assumed ☐ A mixture of both ☐ I am not sure Did anyone else make the feeling stronger? ☐ No ☐ Yes ☐ Not sure Did my feelings make me want to do something? ☐ No ☐ Yes If yes, what? My overall feeling today: 0 = Calm 1 = A little upset 2 = Quite upset 3 = Very upset 4 = Extremely upset Score: 0 1 2 3 4

22 | P a g e Group Risk Score 0 = Not happening 1 = Happening with one person 2 = Happening with a few people 3 = Happening with lots of people Thing to look for Score What it means Talking about the person a lot ___ They keep bringing them up Being really focused on them ___ They think about them a lot Sharing the same bad ideas about them ___ They agree about the person Thinking they deserve something from them ___ They feel entitled Trying to control the person ___ They want the person to do what they say Sharing information ___ They tell each other things about the person Watching or checking on them ___ They keep track of what they do Working together ___ They act as a team Ignoring boundaries ___ They don't respect "no" Continuing after being told to stop ___ They keep going anyway Using other people ___ They get someone else involved Keeping things secret ___ They hide what they are doing Making plans together ___ They plan things as a group Getting worse after being told no ___ Their behaviour becomes stronger Threatening or scaring the person ___ They try to frighten them

23 | P a g e Total Score Add all the scores together: Total: ___ / 45 Low score: There are only a few signs. Medium score: Several signs are happening. High score: Many signs are happening and people may be working together. Simple Group Levels GP-0 — No real problem There aren't many warning signs. GP-1 — One person is focused One person seems very interested or focused on the target. GP-2 — A few people share the same ideas Several people are talking about or focusing on the target. GP-3 — People are working together The group is starting to share information or work together. GP-4 — The group is making plans There is clear planning and people have different jobs or roles. GP-5 — The group is taking action The group is actually doing things, especially if they keep doing them after being told to stop. GP-6 — Things are getting worse The behaviour is becoming more serious, especially after the person says "no" or sets boundaries. Important Don't just look at the final number. Pay special attention if people are making plans, working together, ignoring "no," making threats, or becoming more aggressive.

24 | P a g e FORENSIC OBSESSION SELF-CHECK Name: __________________________ Date: __________________________ Person doing the check: __________________________ How to answer For each question, choose: • 0 = No • 1 = A little • 2 = Sometimes • 3 = A lot • 4 = Very strong / almost always 1. HOW OFTEN DO YOU THINK ABOUT HER? • 1. Do you think about her many times during the day? • 2. Is it hard to stop thinking about her? • 3. Do you think about what she is doing? • 4. Do you think about where she is? • 5. Do you think about what she might be thinking? • 6. Do you think about things she said or did? • 7. Do you imagine talking to her? • 8. Do you imagine seeing her? • 9. Do you think about what might happen between you in the future? • 10. Do thoughts about her make it hard to sleep or concentrate? Score: ______ / 40

25 | P a g e 2. HOW STRONGLY DO YOU FEEL ABOUT HER? • 11. Does she have a big effect on your mood? • 12. Do you feel very sad when she ignores you? • 13. Do you feel angry when she says no to you? • 14. Do you feel worried when you cannot contact her? • 15. Do you feel jealous when she spends time with other people? • 16. Do you feel like you cannot let her go? • 17. Does losing her feel unbearable? • 18. Do small things she does cause big feelings in you? Score: ______ / 32 3. BAD FEELINGS TOWARD HER • 19. Do you feel angry with her? • 20. Do you feel that she treated you badly? • 21. Do you feel that she owes you something? • 22. Do you feel that she is being unfair to you? • 23. Do you feel like she should be punished? • 24. Do you want her to feel bad because she hurt you? • 25. Do you feel happy when she is upset? • 26. Do you blame her for problems in your life? Score: ______ / 32

26 | P a g e 4. WHAT DO YOU THINK ABOUT HER? • 27. Do you think she is making bad choices? • 28. Do you think you know what is best for her? • 29. Do you think she needs to change? • 30. Do you think she cannot make good choices by herself? • 31. Do you think she should listen to you even when she says no? • 32. Do you think other people are stopping her from being with you? • 33. Do you think some people around her should stay away from her? • 34. Do you think you have a special right to be involved in her life? Score: ______ / 32 5. WHAT DO YOU WANT TO HAPPEN? • 35. Do you want her to change? • 36. Do you want her to depend on you? • 37. Do you want her to stay close to you even if she does not want to? • 38. Do you want to stop her from leaving? • 39. Do you want to stop her from seeing certain people? • 40. Do you want to scare her? • 41. Do you want to punish her? • 42. Do you want her to regret saying no to you? • 43. Do you want her to do what you tell her? • 44. Do you want to control what she does? Score: ______ / 40

27 | P a g e 6. DO YOU WANT TO CHANGE HER? • 45. Do you think she needs to become a different person? • 46. Do you have an idea of what you want her to be like? • 47. Do you think you know what is best for her? • 48. Do you think she is wrong when she says she does not need your help? • 49. Do you think you should keep trying until she changes? • 50. Do you think her saying “no” is not enough reason for you to stop? • 51. Do you think you have a special job to fix or change her? Score: ______ / 28 7. DO YOU WANT HER TO NEED YOU? • 52. Do you want her to depend on you? • 53. Do you like the idea of her needing you all the time? • 54. Do you think she would be easier to control if she needed you? • 55. Do you want to take care of her like a parent? • 56. Do you want her to feel that she cannot manage without you? • 57. Would you rather have her depend on you than be completely independent? Score: ______ / 24

28 | P a g e Important question If she became completely independent and did not need you anymore, would you be okay with that? • Yes • No • I'm not sure Why? 8. HAVE YOU MADE PLANS? • 58. Have you made plans about her? • 59. Have you planned ways to see or contact her? • 60. Have you thought about how to get her attention? • 61. Have you thought about what you will do if she says no? • 62. Have you thought of other ways to contact her? • 63. Have you thought about getting another person involved? • 64. Have you made plans to keep watching what she does? • 65. Have you planned things without telling her? Score: ______ / 32

29 | P a g e 9. ARE YOU KEEPING SECRETS? • 66. Are you hiding things you are doing because of her? • 67. Have you hidden contact with her? • 68. Have you lied about what you are doing? • 69. Have you asked someone else to keep a secret for you? • 70. Have you talked about her behind her back? • 71. Do you think people would stop you if they knew what you were planning? Score: ______ / 24 10. DO YOU WANT TO BE AROUND HER? • 72. Do you look for chances to see her? • 73. Do you want to know when she will be alone? • 74. Do you think about where she goes? • 75. Do you look for ways to stay close to her? • 76. Do you feel very upset when you cannot see her? • 77. Do you think you should be allowed to see her even when she says no? Score: ______ / 24

30 | P a g e 11. DO YOU WATCH OR CHECK ON HER? • 78. Do you check her social media again and again? • 79. Do you check if she is online? • 80. Do you try to find out where she is? • 81. Do you ask other people about her? • 82. Do you check who she spends time with? • 83. Do you keep track of things happening in her life? • 84. Have you thought about using technology or other people to watch her? Score: ______ / 28 12. WHAT HAPPENS WHEN SHE SAYS NO? • 85. Do you get more angry when she says no? • 86. Do you try harder when she pushes you away? • 87. Do you think of new ways to get around her saying no? • 88. Do you keep trying after she asks you to stop? • 89. Do you think about what you would do if she blocked you? • 90. Do you think about what you would do if someone tried to stop you? Score: ______ / 24

31 | P a g e 13. THREATS OR GETTING BACK AT HER • 91. Have you threatened her? • 92. Have you threatened someone who helps her? • 93. Have you said something bad will happen if she leaves? • 94. Have you said something bad will happen if she tells people? • 95. Have you thought about getting revenge? • 96. Have you thought about hurting someone because of her? Score: ______ / 24 If you answered yes to any of these, write what happened: 14. OTHER PEOPLE INVOLVED • 97. Do you talk to other people about her a lot? • 98. Do you and other people share information about her? • 99. Do you talk about what she is doing? • 100. Do you talk about ways to influence her? • 101. Do you talk about ways to stay close to her? • 102. Do other people help you contact or watch her? • 103. Do other people agree with your ideas about her? • 104. Do you work together when dealing with her? Score: ______ / 32

32 | P a g e 15. THE BIG PICTURE What am I thinking about her? What am I feeling? What do I believe about her? What do I want to happen? What have I planned? What have I actually done? What do I do when she says “no”? What would I do if I could never contact her again?

33 | P a g e 16. HOW FAR HAS IT GONE? Choose the highest level that matches what has actually happened. Level 0 — I am not really fixated I do not think about her much and I respect her boundaries. Level 1 — I think about her a lot She is often on my mind, but I am not doing things to interfere with her life. Level 2 — I have strong feelings I feel very attached, jealous, angry, sad, or worried about her. Level 3 — I feel entitled I feel like I have a special right to be involved in her life, even when she says no. Level 4 — I want something from her I want her to change, depend on me, stay with me, or do what I want. Level 5 — I have made plans I have made plans to get contact, keep contact, influence her, or get around her boundaries. Level 6 — I have acted on my plans I have actually contacted, followed, watched, approached, or interfered with her. Level 7 — Things are getting worse My behaviour becomes stronger or more serious when she tries to get away from me. Level 8 — Serious danger signs There are serious threats, revenge, violence, strong control, or repeated unwanted watching/contact. My level: ______ Why did I choose this level?

34 | P a g e 17. SCORE SHEET Part Score Thinking about her ____ / 40 Strong feelings ____ / 32 Bad feelings ____ / 32 What I think about her ____ / 32 What I want ____ / 40 Wanting to change her ____ / 28 Wanting her to need me ____ / 24 Planning ____ / 32 Keeping secrets ____ / 24 Wanting access to her ____ / 24 Watching/checking ____ / 28 Reaction to “no” ____ / 24 Threats/revenge ____ / 24 Other people involved ____ / 32 Total: ______ / 416

35 | P a g e Remember The total number does not tell you by itself whether someone is dangerous or has an obsession. The more important questions are: Am I respecting her “no”? Am I trying to control her? Am I making plans around her? Am I watching or following her? Am I hiding what I am doing? Am I getting worse when she tries to get away? Have I threatened or tried to hurt anyone?

36 | P a g e FORENSIC OBSESSION SELF-ASSESSMENT Mental → Emotional → Negative Thoughts → Negative Intentions → Planning → Action → Escalation Name / Identifier: ______________________________________ Date: ____________________ Assessor: ______________________________________________ Case / Reference: _______________________________________ Rating Scale • 0 = None • 1 = Mild / occasional • 2 = Moderate / recurrent • 3 = Strong / frequent • 4 = Extreme / persistent Record specific examples or evidence for each significant rating.

37 | P a g e 1. MENTAL OBSESSION How much mental space does she occupy? • 1. I think about her repeatedly during the day. • 2. Thoughts about her arise when I am trying to concentrate elsewhere. • 3. I repeatedly analyse what she says, does, or thinks. • 4. I replay previous interactions. • 5. I imagine future interactions with her. • 6. I mentally rehearse what I will say to her. • 7. I think about where she is and what she might be doing. • 8. I try to work out what she is thinking without asking her. • 9. I search for hidden meanings in her behaviour. • 10. I find it difficult to stop thinking about her. • 11. Thoughts about her interfere with sleep. • 12. Other activities seem less important than resolving the situation with her. Score: ______ / 48 Examples / evidence:

38 | P a g e 2. EMOTIONAL OBSESSION How strongly does she affect my emotional state? • 13. My mood depends significantly on what she does. • 14. I feel intense distress when she ignores me. • 15. I feel rejected when she distances herself. • 16. I become angry when she refuses contact. • 17. I feel anxious when I lose access to her. • 18. I feel jealous of people close to her. • 19. I feel threatened by her independence. • 20. I feel emotionally unable to let go. • 21. I feel that losing her would be unbearable. • 22. I have strong emotional reactions to relatively small events involving her. Score: ______ / 40 Examples / evidence:

39 | P a g e 3. NEGATIVE FEELINGS TOWARD HER • 23. I feel resentment toward her. • 24. I feel anger toward her. • 25. I feel humiliated because of her rejection. • 26. I feel she has wronged me. • 27. I feel she owes me something. • 28. I feel she is deliberately hurting me. • 29. I feel she is ungrateful. • 30. I feel she deserves consequences for rejecting me. • 31. I fantasise about her experiencing distress. • 32. I experience satisfaction when she is upset, frightened, or dependent. Score: ______ / 40 Examples / evidence: Important: A negative feeling does not automatically establish a harmful intention.

40 | P a g e 4. NEGATIVE THOUGHTS / INTERPRETATIONS • 33. I think she is the cause of my problems. • 34. I think she needs to be punished. • 35. I think she needs to be controlled. • 36. I think she cannot be trusted to make her own decisions. • 37. I think her refusal is irrational. • 38. I think she does not deserve to make the final decision. • 39. I think someone needs to intervene in her life against her wishes. • 40. I think her friends or family are responsible for turning her against me. • 41. I think other people need to be removed from her life. • 42. I think her independence is dangerous or unacceptable. Score: ______ / 40 Examples / evidence:

41 | P a g e 5. NEGATIVE INTENTION Move from what I think to what I want to happen. • 43. I want to prevent her from leaving. • 44. I want to make her change. • 45. I want to make her dependent upon me. • 46. I want to prevent her from seeing particular people. • 47. I want to maintain access to her. • 48. I want to frighten or intimidate her. • 49. I want to punish her for rejecting me. • 50. I want to damage her reputation. • 51. I want to interfere with her employment or relationships. • 52. I want to make her regret leaving me. • 53. I want her to submit to my wishes. • 54. I want her to become sufficiently dependent that leaving becomes difficult. Score: ______ / 48 Intended outcome • No negative objective • Influence • Control • Dependency • Punishment • Retaliation • Intimidation

42 | P a g e • Other: _________________________________________________ 6. “SHE NEEDS TO BE CHANGED” • 55. I believe her personality needs to be changed. • 56. I have a specific version of the person I want her to become. • 57. I believe I know what is psychologically best for her. • 58. I believe she cannot make a valid decision about whether she needs my help. • 59. I interpret resistance as evidence that something is wrong with her. • 60. I believe I should continue until she changes. • 61. I believe her refusal does not necessarily mean I should stop. • 62. I believe I have a special responsibility to transform her. Score: ______ / 32 Examples / evidence:

43 | P a g e 7. REGRESSION / DEPENDENCY FANTASY • 63. I think about her becoming psychologically dependent upon me. • 64. I think about her becoming more childlike or regressed. • 65. I believe regression would make her easier to influence. • 66. I believe regression would make her more receptive to me. • 67. I imagine myself taking a parental or mothering role. • 68. I want her to rely upon me emotionally. • 69. I would prefer dependence to complete independence. • 70. I have thought about what I could do once she became sufficiently dependent. Score: ______ / 32 Independence test If she became completely independent and no longer needed me, would that be the outcome I wanted? • Yes • No • Unsure Explain:

44 | P a g e 8. PLANNING • 71. I have made plans involving her. • 72. I have planned future contact. • 73. I have planned how to regain access to her. • 74. I have planned what I will do if she refuses. • 75. I have considered alternative ways of contacting her. • 76. I have considered using another person to contact her. • 77. I have planned how to monitor her. • 78. I have planned how to maintain secrecy. • 79. I have planned how to prevent other people interfering. • 80. I have planned what will happen after she is “healed.” Score: ______ / 40 Specific plans / evidence:

45 | P a g e 9. CONCEALMENT / SECRET PLANNING • 81. I have kept plans involving her secret. • 82. I have deliberately concealed my contact with her. • 83. I have concealed information from her. • 84. I have asked others to keep information secret. • 85. I have discussed her with others without her knowledge. • 86. I have used misleading language to describe what I am doing. • 87. I believe disclosure would interfere with my plans. • 88. I have considered what evidence I should avoid creating. Score: ______ / 32 Examples / evidence:

46 | P a g e 10. ACCESS / OPPORTUNITY • 89. I actively look for opportunities to see her. • 90. I want continued access to her home. • 91. I think about when she is likely to be alone. • 92. I monitor her routine. • 93. I have considered ways of maintaining access after permission is withdrawn. • 94. I feel that I have a special reason to access her despite her objections. • 95. Losing physical access causes me significant distress. Score: ______ / 28 11. MONITORING / SURVEILLANCE • 96. I check her social media repeatedly. • 97. I monitor whether she is online. • 98. I seek information about her whereabouts. • 99. I ask other people for information about her. • 100. I monitor her relationships. • 101. I monitor her work or activities. • 102. I follow developments in her life without her knowledge. • 103. I have considered using technology or other people to monitor her. Score: ______ / 32

47 | P a g e 12. ESCALATION PLANNING What happens when I do not get what I want? • 104. I have considered what I will do if she blocks me. • 105. I have considered what I will do if she reports me. • 106. I have considered what I will do if she moves away. • 107. I have considered what I will do if another person protects her. • 108. I have considered ways around restrictions placed on me. • 109. I become more determined when she tries to escape my influence. • 110. I have considered increasingly intrusive ways of maintaining contact. Score: ______ / 28 13. THREAT / RETALIATION • 111. I have threatened her. • 112. I have threatened someone supporting her. • 113. I have threatened to expose information about her. • 114. I have threatened consequences if she leaves. • 115. I have threatened consequences if she speaks. • 116. I have considered retaliation against her. • 117. I have considered retaliation against people I blame for separating us. Score: ______ / 28 Any actual threat — record separately with date, recipient, exact wording, and context.

48 | P a g e 14. GROUP OBSESSION • 118. I discuss her with other members of the group. • 119. We share information about her. • 120. We discuss what she is doing. • 121. We discuss how to influence her. • 122. We discuss how to maintain access to her. • 123. We discuss what should happen to her in the future. • 124. We reinforce each other's beliefs about her. • 125. We coordinate our behaviour toward her. • 126. We maintain a common explanation for our behaviour. Score: ______ / 36 Group role • Observer • Supporter • Fixated member • Monitor • Planner • Access facilitator • Controller • Silencer / concealer • Escalator 15. THOUGHT → FEELING → INTENTION → PLAN → ACTION

49 | P a g e 1. Mental fixation What am I thinking? 2. Emotional fixation What am I feeling? 3. Negative belief What do I believe about her? 4. Desired outcome What do I want to happen to her? 5. Plan What am I prepared to do to achieve it? 6. Action What have I actually done? 7. Response to resistance What do I do when she says no? 8. Escalation What would I do if I lost access completely? 16. FORENSIC CLASSIFICATION Record the highest evidenced behavioural stage, rather than simply the highest emotional score. F0 — No significant fixation

50 | P a g e No meaningful preoccupation or intrusive behaviour. F1 — Mental preoccupation Substantial thoughts about her, without meaningful boundary problems. F2 — Emotional fixation Persistent emotional dependence, jealousy, anger, or distress concerning her. F3 — Entitled fixation Belief that I have a special right or obligation to remain involved despite her wishes. F4 — Intentional fixation A defined objective develops: change, control, dependency, punishment, access, etc. F5 — Planned fixation Specific plans are made to maintain contact, access, influence, or secrecy. F6 — Operational fixation Plans are translated into repeated behaviour such as monitoring, contacting, approaching, accessing, or using others. F7 — Escalating fixation Behaviour intensifies following rejection, loss of access, or attempts to establish boundaries. F8 — High-risk fixation Significant threats, retaliation, violence, coercive control, persistent surveillance, or other serious escalation indicators are present. Highest evidenced stage: F______ Evidence supporting classification:

51 | P a g e 17. OVERALL SCORE SUMMARY Domain Score Mental obsession ______ / 48 Emotional obsession ______ / 40 Negative feelings ______ / 40 Negative thoughts ______ / 40 Negative intention ______ / 48 Change / transformation beliefs ______ / 32 Regression / dependency ______ / 32 Planning ______ / 40 Concealment ______ / 32 Access / opportunity ______ / 28 Monitoring / surveillance ______ / 32 Escalation planning ______ / 28 Threat / retaliation ______ / 28 Group obsession ______ / 36 Total: ______ / 504 Interpretation note Do not treat the total score as a validated clinical or forensic risk score. The most important information is the pattern and progression of behaviour, particularly movement from thoughts and emotions toward intention, planning, action, persistence despite boundaries, and escalation.

52 | P a g e 18. FINAL FORENSIC SUMMARY Mental Emotional Negative thoughts Negative intentions Planning Actions Response to boundaries / rejection Evidence of escalation Overall assessment

53 | P a g e Completed by: _______________________________________________ Date: ____________________ Signature: _________________________________________________